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Living together
Who would have thought that living together would have been so hard, well most people I guess I just didn’t think about it. I probably should have I don’t know why I thought that it would have been easy, living out of each other pockets was never going to be easy, I realised this at the point when we started commenting on each others toilet habits, that’s about when it got a bit much.
I’m not used to the routine either that she has, so regimented so routine. It leaves little to be flexible with the little time that I do have to do what I want. There are many things that I have found out that I would like to share with you now.
- I didn’t know that pillows also existed for decoration. I thought that beds served a practical purpose and since no one has seen it yet decoration seems useless.
- Beds need to be tucked in a military fashion otherwise it is not made
- House cleaning must be done at 7am on a Saturday morning.
- Gardening is meant to be fun
- ‘You’re the man’ is meant to he a sufficient reason for almost everything
It’s not that I’m complaining, it is that I’ve never segmented duties to gender classification, but it seems the I’m relegated to the garden work and she to the house work.
I don’t know if it has been the years of nagging and negative comments, but I’m just very cynical of her now. Or am I too emotional that I take comments that she said too personal. Who knows.
Advice from my Father
I have never been comfortable with this, I’m not sure why there is nothing wrong with what he is saying, I suppose that most of it is true but there is something about it which doesn’t sit quite right. I don’t think that I’m alone because most of my mates have said the same thing as well.
This is the first time that he has tried to give me ‘life advice’ the other times had always been school and friends stuff which is harmless but then we got to the sex talk….uncomfortable!
Everything he said just was really weird and disjointed I was more embarrassed for him rather than me, it’s actually quite funny now that I think of it how he decided to deliver his speech and mum for some reason thought that it was his job to do it rather than hers or both. From here it moved to relationship advice, marriage advice with the odd technical stuff thrown in for good measure to make sure I am enough of a man…roar!!
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Dissemination of Parts
It is inevitable I suppose as you get older things start to change, you think differently, act differently your general tastes in various pursuits change as well. Parties are no longer an excuse to just get wasted, although I still do that now I try to do it somewhere nice or a pub that I haven’t been before and generally I don’t get as paralytic as I used to. Movies are seen in a different light as to before and they are more varied. It would only have been last year that I would have never considering going to see Macbeth (2006) but this time around it’s on the cards.
The changes that I have seen in myself I have also seen in my group of friends, as we have group we have always been good mates and I have no doubt that we always will be, but we have begun to separate and follow different paths. Read more »
What Becomes of Us
I thought that love was meant to be grand
One of lifes events that are never planned
The times of absolute bliss
The conteted feeling of that perfect kiss
That all knowing look like no one else exists
The women who will be always be first and last on the list
What happened how did it change
Why do they feel locked together in chains
Now the wrong conversation can bring the most unbarable pain
The sanity of their relationship now insane
Wedges, Salad, Dinner and Pancakes
Different people from different times in my past represent different sides of me with each of them I was a different person and it is only now considering how much time has passed that I can see how different I was back in those days and how much I possibly haven’t changed.
Wedges are a couple of people I used to work with at my first place of employment, after so long it took a little time to relate to them again, we were able to talk for a good little while but after a little bit of time I could feel that sense of ‘running out of conversation’ it’s probably going to be one of those things where we will see each other every so often but not a great deal. No matter what I thought of the night it was good to see them again and we left quite amicable, I vow to email them as often as possible.
Pancakes is another former work college, one which I had a good relationship with and continue to do so, although when we worked it was more party and fun, now it’s slightly more serious and deep. I’m not certain which I prefer more, I had learnt a lot about myself and had heaps of fun in the early days but now that relationship had developed into something that I also enjoy immensely, I now notice how we have changed in the few short years that we have known each other even the past 6 months there as been a noticeable change, mostly for the better. Pancakes were each others rock in the ocean when we were going through personal problems and in a way we still are they are just different problems. I am just uncertain how I am seen by this person, I wish I was more but less, either way I know that we value each other and that’s what counts. I vow regular face to face contact, email contact and the occasionally drunken party.
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One Sided Romance
I suppose that relationships (platonic or romantic) are very often a two way street where there is a lot of give and take and compromise, but in most cases (in my experience) there is always one who fights harder than the other, one who will give up or do more than the other.
Why?
So that one can feel better about themselves, because the other is insecure. Or is it just personality, that could be why they are a match, once chases the other allows the chase, like a plug fitting in a socket.
Personally I hate being the one to make all the phone calls having to do the run around. It makes you feel unwanted, sometimes used but most of the time, and worst of all, unsure about the relationship. I am not insecure about myself or my feelings I am very certain, and emotionally stable, which is probably my downfall, its the reason that I keep making those calls against my better judgement or is it my eternal curiosity, I haven’t figured out which yet.
Eventually one person will stop, one will have enough of the chase when they realise that they were chasing nothing at all.
But how do you tell when the same person is consistently nice to you, how to do you see through the smoke screen, I certainly can’t which is why chasing ghosts is such a sport for me, it’s shame because I have lost too many friends that way too. How do I know if someone likes me, platonic of course, is there a way to tell or is verbal conformation that only way?
I was told by a friend that it is a natural occurrence in the context of relationships for people to be followers and gathers, there are those among us who are magnets for people, you naturally gravitate towards them, there is something about them that facilitate
conversation and social scenes, I have seen this and I’m a little annoyed by it mainly because I’m a chaser.
I am probably too harsh, if they don’t show the same amount of enthusiasm that I show I tend to give up on them, but why, could it just be me and the way that I interact with people, of course I speak only of a handful of people that I know, most are not like this and I enjoy their company and I have certainty that they enjoy mine. It is always that 1% that makes the difference, that gets you wondering as you walk home “wow that was a great night, buy why is it always me that makes the contact, if they are not interested why not just say no to coffee?”
I’m not a fan of the one sided romance.
Catch Up
I had made some stunning friends were I used to work and I have tried my best to keep in contact with him either through phone calls or emails, but it has become increasingly difficult for one reason or another. I have been slowly seeing them face to face for dinner and/or coffee which has been great to see them again and catch up, but there is something different I think and I’m not sure what it is. It is at this point that my analytical point of my personality comes out and drives me nuts.
I would say that I’m an alright judge of character, but I’m not great, I think that I can only tell if someone is being honest or not, and body language I’m hopeless at. Losing that connection with someone has only happened a few times before but I have noticed that it is starting to increase, it’s more about that dead point in a conversation, that bit where you both look away and not sure what to say or that sudden change in topic.
Was it because I didn’t have the social lubricant that was my former place of employment, I suppose that it was we always had something in common, it’s interesting because it has happened twice - two former places of employment. My current one I doubt that I will make the same sort of friends because it is along the lines of the IT career that I would like to follow.
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Are we still friends?
This seems to be a reoccurring theme when I catch up with my old work friends, and I’m not too sure what to do about it, they are great people but I don’t seem to have kept in contact with them but the door swings both ways I haven’t had any contact what so every from them either - and now here is the problem.
Those that I have kept in contact with they have invited me out, and I’m glad to go, but those that haven’t talked to me, or I to them they don’t seem to like me so I’m a little hesitant to head out, considering that the night will involve alcohol and partying which could mean that I will end up a little worse for wear.
I don’t know if I am better off having individual catch up sessions with only the people that I like instead of seeing those that I both like and dislike and throw caution to the wind and hope that nothing too bad happens.
As I don’t really have a choice I guess that I will go along and hopefully it will turn out alright. My other decision that I have to make would be to decide if I should drive or not, driving affords me the possibly of getting home easily while spending less money on drinks, but it could mean that I won’t be drinking, duh!
But drinking has that same ups and downs, I might not find easy transport home, but I could have slightly more fun and on top of that I haven’t had a decent night out with on the grog in quite a while.
As with most things I guess that I’ll just make my decision at the last minute.